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On Giving and Receiving

We are sustained and fulfilled by the eternal flow of Love. There is nothing else. Why then are we tricked so easily into believing that we are sustained by the material resources, career, and food?

In Lesson 50, A Course in Miracles, it says: “In this world, you believe you are sustained by everything but God. Your faith is placed in the most trivial and insane symbols; pills, money, “protective” clothing, influence, prestige, being liked, knowing the “right” people, and an endless list of forms of nothingness that you endow with magical powers. All these things are your replacements for the Love of God. All these things are cherished to ensure a body identification. They are songs of praise to the ego. Do not put your faith in the worthless. It will not sustain you.” (W.50.1:2-3, 2)

We believe that we can be sustained by various substitutes of Love because we came to believe that we are temporary bodies instead of eternal Spirit. By accepting this limited view of ourselves we accept the whole package. Small and fragile bodies do need constant protection, their associated ego identities need to be supported and maintained.  In the meanwhile, the eternal protection of peace and joy is always available to us. In fact, this is the only kind of protection that does not fail.

In Lesson 50, we are encouraged to put our faith in the Love of God and let it resolve our worries with ease and grace: “Only the Love of God will protect you in all circumstances. It will lift you out of every trial, and raise you high above all the perceived dangers of this world into a climate of perfect peace and safety. It will transport you into a state of mind that nothing can threaten, nothing can disturb, and where nothing can intrude upon the eternal calm of the Son of God. Put not your faith in illusions. They will fail you. Put all your faith in the Love of God within you; eternal, changeless and forever unfailing. This is the answer to whatever confronts you today. Through the Love of God within you, you can resolve all seeming difficulties without effort and in sure confidence.” (W.50.3, 4:1-5)

As we learn to give our concerns over to the Spirit, we notice that no effort is required on our part. Confidence is a natural result of trusting that the Love of God has all the answers for me. A state of peace and quiet surety that comes as we practice putting ourselves in God’s hands is so precious that no false idol can ever compare to it.

The logic of the world often says that we must give in order to receive. Isn’t it simply an exchange instead of an organic outpouring of joy from the heart? Lesson 108 in A Course in Miracles says, “To give and to receive are one in truth.”  True giving doesn’t originate from our limited personalities and is not restricted by them. It doesn’t need to be planned or prepared for. It is a natural and effortless process of being kind and gentle to each other.

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Active Life Is A Life of Giving

Without giving there is no Life. There is only an illusion of action that is devoid of true vitality. Without a sincere desire to share from the heart our vital forces are temporarily asleep. For a brief moment, we may even forget that they are there. Active life is a life of extending the gifts of Spirit to everyone on our paths to the best of our abilities. As Saint Francis of Assisi beautifully said, “For it is in giving that we receive.”

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Giving brings purpose and joy into our life. It empowers and enriches both parties, as we appreciate the true value of each other. I was talking to a friend this week about how one kind word or gesture can make a huge difference in someone’s life. This article summarizes four lessons that can be learned from a life of giving.

Upon reflecting on the natural flow of giving and receiving, I clearly saw them as one and the same. As each breath consists of an inhalation and an exhalation, life consists of giving and receiving. Through my giving I’m receiving, and whatever I’m withholding I’m actually keeping from myself. This motivates me to write these words because by sharing them I’m able to integrate them more fully in my life.

Action = Vitality = Life = Extending = Sharing = Giving = Joy = Receiving = Love

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“I Am Here to Be Truly Helpful” Prayer

The following prayer from A Course in Miracles is a great way to start a day to be inspired to be truly helpful in any situation. Miracles happen when we bring this attitude to any situation. Robert Perry wrote a very insightful article on this well-known prayer.

I am here only to be truly helpful.
I am here to represent Him Who sent me.
I do not have to worry about what to say or what to do, because He Who sent me will direct me.
I am content to be wherever He wishes, knowing He goes there with me.
I will be healed as I let Him teach me to heal.

About Tanya

life_purpose_coachingTanya Ince is a Spiritual Coach, Writer, and the Co-Founder of Wisdom Resource Center. Tanya earned her Ph.D. in Economics from the University of Houston. She is a graduate of Erickson Coaching International and Institute of Integrative Nutrition. Tanya is an ordained non-denominational minister with the Pathways of Light and the Co-Founder of Technology Around Me, a blog that helps college students succeed in their academic and personal life.  On her blog, Tanya writes about practical spirituality and personal development. Connect with Tanya on Facebook and follow her on Twitter @TanyaCoaching.

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How to Follow Your Inner Compass

Cooler days and fall colors gently reminds us to welcome a time of transition with patience and grace. Living in the beautiful Blue Ridge Mountains of North Carolina, I’m always grateful for this season. As children go back to school and we say goodbye to warm summer days, it’s time to look forward and re-organize our lives again.

Fall is a Time of Graceful Transitions

Fall is the time of change and appreciation of the abundance of life. It is a symbol for transformation and receiving gifts. How can we enter this new season with composure and excitement? How can we follow our inner compass during the time of change?

Going through a major life transition, like having a baby, getting married, or getting a new job, can be overwhelming. In addition to the natural stress of adjusting to a new role, we often impose on ourselves a pile of unrealistic expectations and rules about how we need to handle it.

What Does It Mean to Follow Your Inner Compass?

Luckily, you don’t need to have your whole life figured out before you take your next step. Contrary to a popular belief, following your inner compass doesn’t mean that you need to know what your life purpose is. What a relief!

As my favorite poet and spiritual teacher Rumi said, “As you start walking on the way, the way appears.” You do need to start walking though!

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As we take each step, the next step appears before us. This next step is all we ever need to focus on. Trust me, it works like magic every time. Once I stop worrying and relax in the present moment, I’m in a position to discover my next step. And the next step comes from pure inspiration rather than a bunch of old beliefs and ideas.

I like being in a state of curious presence, giving my full attention to each moment. Curiosity, playfulness, and trust in the basic goodness of the Universe make life easier and allow us to be happy students of life. This article offers good questions that can help you get curious and consider new possibilities.

Leadership Lessons from the Thriller “The Edge”

Deliberate transitions require only trusting that your inner compass is always working. As I was reflecting on my own transformation in the last few years, I watched a very powerful thriller – “The Edge.” In this movie, Anthony Hopkins says to Alec Baldwin, “Just because you feel lost doesn’t mean your compass is broken.” This line just hit me with a profound realization that being lost in the wilderness of Alaskan forest is a perfect metaphor for our life journey.

Incidentally, Anthony Hopkins’ character in the movie demonstrates many qualities of a good leader. Observing him in this movie helped me to see how I can be a leader in my own life. Despite many challenges, he is always positive, calm, and collected. He offers creative ideas and takes initiative in implementing them. He is solution-oriented and proactive.

Be Gentle with Yourself and Trust

Another gem from the same movie was the idea that most people die in the woods out of shame. We start asking, “How did I get myself into this?” As soon as something doesn’t go exactly as planned, we often get too hard on ourselves. These self-expectations and criticisms weigh hard on our shoulders.

Pivotal points in our lives is the time when we need to be our own best friend the most.Click To Tweet

In addition to using a compass, Anthony Hopkins and Alec Baldwin follow birds and the flow of the river to find their way home. At the time of change, nature offers us many great examples. We just need to keep walking one step at a time and trust that it’s natural for us to find our way out.

Let’s make this season a celebration of our innate ability to listen to our inner compass and follow our joy!

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Inspiration for A new beginning

Inspiration for a New Beginning

“Start by doing what’s necessary; then do what’s possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible.” ~Saint Francis of Assisi

Many of us are currently starting new chapters in different areas of our lives. Whether it is moving into a new home, starting a new job, having a baby, starting a new business, or beginning a new relationship, embarking on a new adventure requires energy, dedication, stability of focus, and clarity of vision. Very often, it is the idea of starting something new that seems frightening to us. As we take the first step, the unknown territory gradually becomes more familiar and we begin to enjoy the process.

How To Make The First Step

How can we bring ourselves to make this first step? I think the above quote by Saint Francis sums it up. The desire for something new is usually born out of necessity for change. Ironically, the unhappier we are now the more energized and motivated we are to change something. At a certain point, current situation becomes so intolerable that the necessity of an adjustment becomes apparent. This is a turning point, when we start to take the necessary action steps to bring about the new vision.

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The discomfort that is felt just before this turning point contains very useful information about what we want to have instead. This information can be used to create a vision for the future. The clearer this vision is, the more energy and motivation we can garner for making this transition. By experiencing this temporary pressure, uneasiness, impatience, or lack, we can crystallize our desire and inform our vision for the future.

Therefore,

the best way to see any discomfort is like an inspiration for change and a precursor to something new that is about to be born.Click To Tweet It shows us where the change is necessary.

The 3-Step Process to Initiate Change

A transition process is a process of trusting that you are doing your best every day by taking small steps. Taking these steps has a cumulative effect that eventually shifts the quality of an experience. This is clearly observed in learning to drive a car, play an instrument, or ride a bike.

I like to put it into a 3-step practical process of asking myself these three questions:

  1. What needs to be changed in my life right now?
  2. What is the next step I can take in the direction of change and expansion in this area?
  3. What other opportunities are available?

In this article on How to Support Yourself During A Time of Change, I provided a questionnaire that helps to evaluate you level of stress that comes from change and five ways to support yourself throughout this process.

Inspiration for a New Beginning

This poem from John O’Donohue’s book To Bless the Space Between Us is a perfect inspiration for a new beginning. It can be helpful as we prepare for what’s coming next. It emphasizes trust, grace, and listening to the rhythm of what is unfolding in our lives.

For A New Beginning

In out-of-the-way places of the heart,
Where your thoughts never think to wander,
This beginning has been quietly forming,
Waiting until you were ready to emerge.

For a long time it has watched your desire,
Feeling the emptiness grow inside you,
Noticing how you willed yourself on,
Still unable to leave what you had outgrown.

It watched you play with the seduction of safety
And the grey promises that sameness whispered,
Heard the waves of turmoil rise and relent,
Wondered would you always live like this.

Then the delight, when your courage kindled,
And out you stepped onto new ground,
Your eyes young again with energy and dream,
A path of plenitude opening before you.

Though your destination is not clear
You can trust the promise of this opening;
Unfurl yourself into the grace of beginning
That is one with your life’s desire.

Awaken your spirit to adventure;
Hold nothing back, learn to find ease in risk;
Soon you will be home in a new rhythm,
For your soul senses the world that awaits you.

How to use affirmations to increase your money flow

How to Use Affirmations to Increase Your Money Flow

“Every thought you have contributes to truth or to illusion; either it extends the truth or it multiplies illusions.” A Course in Miracles, Lesson 16

Have you ever heard about or used affirmations? Last week, I was interviewed by a friend and freelance writer, Jenna Joanitis, on the topic of using affirmations to improve your mood and productivity. Chatting with Jenna reminded me of this powerful tool for intentionally changing our subconscious beliefs. Louise Hay, a visionary author and the founder of Hay House, pioneered this work in the 1970s. I like using affirmations to rewrite my story and create the life I want because it’s such a simple, yet effective technique.

Even though it may look like wishful thinking, affirmations, when used correctly, perform their deep healing work at several levels of our being and can help us improve all areas of our lives – from relationships and social life to career, spirituality, and money. They don’t take too much time and can be done anywhere whenever you have a moment. Continue reading How to Use Affirmations to Increase Your Money Flow

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New Moon in Pisces on March 17, 2018 – Letting Go and Affirming Your Life

The main themes for this lunar month are:

  • Releasing our collective and individual pain;
  • Learning and using self-healing techniques;
  • Approaching each other with compassion and forgiveness;
  • Using nature, and more specifically water element, for healing the past wounds;
  • Learning to say no and setting healthy boundaries;
  • Letting go of the old;
  • Accept what is and bringing in the new energy;
  • Using affirmations to create what we are inspired to create.

Sun and Moon meet Chiron in Pisces in the skies. We are releasing the victimhood stories of pain and suffering and replacing them with a new story. Starting from now, we can see our lives in a completely new light. We go back at our lives and collectively let go of the past and move from pain and divisiveness to happiness and wholeness. It is time to heal all the wounds.

In the meanwhile, we can be shown situations that no longer serve us because we’ve outgrown them. We are shown what needs healing. This lunar month, we can use the cosmic energies to meditate and tune into releasing all our pain. Karmic wounds that involve the closest family members may surface. Family stories may com to the surface to be healed. Approach these situations with wisdom and grace. If they surface and request your attention in your memories or in real life, meet them with kindness, objectivity, and detachment. Remember that this is an opportunity for acceptance, healing, and letting go.

At the same time, Pisces makes us vulnerable and emotional. It doesn’t mean that it will be easy to stay graceful and detached. This month, we can consciously work with the element of water to release the past. As we are able to release old grievances and rewrite our old stories, we become wiser and more connected to our spiritual essence.

If we consciously decide to do this work, it can literally rewrite the story of our lives.  Decide that you are no longer a victim in your life. You can have everything you want. Declare what you want and it’s going to be true for you. This month, your intention expressed in words can have an immediate energetic effect in how other people see you.

Sun, Moon, and Chiron in Pisces trine Jupiter in Scorpio. Jupiter heightens our intuitive skills and our connection to our highest potential. We can go really deep into the parts of our psyche that were not accessible before. In this process of releasing the past and freeing the future, nature can be our greatest teacher and a perfect healing agent. Nature knows how to be renewed and reborn. It can be a good time to turn to herbal medicine, shamanic healing, essential oils, and good old walks in the park. We are learning to maintain the connection to our own inner authority and bring it into the world through inspired action.

Sun, Moon, and Chiron in Pisces square Mars in Scorpio. This is an opportunity to release suppressed anger that was stored for many years. We can also let go of guilt that is related to the expression of anger and sexuality. Look at the old emotional wounds, let yourself feel them for a moment, and let them go.

Using The Water Element for Transformation This Month

Here are a couple of suggestion of how you can use water element this month:

  • Take a baths with Epsom salts and essential oils,
  • Go to the pool and swim,
  • Go to a sauna, or
  • Go for a walk at a lake or a river.

Water can help us release stuck emotions and mental patterns this month. You can simply imaging that you are standing under a waterfall. Imagine that water flows through you, cleansing all parts of your body and your aura, and eliminating anything that you don’t need and restoring everything that needs to be restored and integrated.

Mercury Retrograde in Aries from March 22 to April 15. If you are starting something new this month, think it through and plan ahead. This is not the time to rush into new projects. Careful planning and step-by-step execution will lead to positive results. Before you start anything, make sure that your emotions are aligned with your thoughts and actions. It’s a good time to focus on writing projects, journaling, and meditating. Our mental focus is strong and penetrating.

Venus conjunct Mercury in Aries square Saturn in Capricorn trine North Node in Leo. Redefine your relationships and become more responsible and more mature about how we are using our skills and abilities. It is time to accept your talents and find a way to step into your authentic self.  Choose your thoughts very carefully this month. Affirmations are your biggest friend this month.

Affirmations Exercise:

  1. Create five affirmations you would like to start living in the next year.
  2. Say them with intention and watch them become reality this month.

Have a wonderful and transformative month!

How to take responsibility for your life

How To Take Responsibility For Your Life

“Character — the willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life — is the source from which self-respect springs.”

Joan Didion, On Self-Respect

During one of my PEAT Trainings, a student asked me a question about responsibility and about what I’m doing when I’m helping a client to get rid of the accumulated emotional charge around a specific issue. He asked, “What should I do if someone asks me to change another person in their life?” My student, who was a psychologist, said that people come to him sometimes in the hope of changing someone else. They are not ready to take responsibility for their life. Then they come to a coach, psychologist, or PEAT facilitator, and say, for example, “My husband is not working. How can I make him look for a job?” or “My wife likes to quarrel, and I don’t like confict. How can I change her behavior?”

The simple fact is that we can’t change anyone except ourselves. In Lesson 23, A Course in Miracles says, “There is no point in trying to change the world. It is incapable of change because it is merely an effect. But there is indeed a point in changing your thoughts about the world. Here you are changing the cause. The effect will change automatically.

Another fact is that our external circumstances change, when inner changes become deeply integrated in our life through emotions, thoughts, and actions. It’s important to be clear about that, so that we don’t waste our energy on trying to change another person. When I meet a person for the first time for a one-on-one session, I clarify that by explaining that we can only work with their inner material. For example, we can work with the client’s thoughts, emotions, and reactions to the behavior of his or her spouse.

As much as we want, we can’t change another person. At the same time, I can guarantee someone who is working with me that their reactions will change and they will become calmer, more conscious, and more objective. Eventually, new emotional state will lead to new actions. It might happen that the external situation will change or disappear because of these inner changes. When we resolve our inner issues, we don’t need them to be replayed over and over in our life, because the lesson has been learned.

What Is Responsibility?

Responsibility has an unduly bad reputation in our society. It is often mistakenly associated with blame and pointing fingers. In fact, it is a very empowering notion. Sigmund Freud said, “Most people do not really want freedom, because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened of responsibility.

Taking responsibility for your life is the first step for any change. While we are thinking that someone or something else is responsible for circumstances in our lives, any progress is out of question. If I believe that something external controls how I feel, I’m giving away my power to that all-powerful something. It is literally disempowering.

As long as I believe so, I will stay in a position of a victim, where anything can happen to me against my will. I can get angry because someone didn’t show up on time. I can get irritated because I had to wait in traffic for an hour. I can get upset because I work with people, who don’t understand and don’t appreciate me. There are many versions of this miserable scenario.

Even though we are used to thinking that way and rehearsed it very well, this is a position that is very far from reality and from the realization of our own power to choose any reaction to any situation. While we keep complaining and crying over spilled milk, life is quietly passing by and we keep wasting precious opportunities for growth. Opportunities for change are always there, but they assume that we are at least open to them instead of being stuck in self-pity.

This is not to blame anyone, because it is a learned habit. But we can make another choice. Do we want something new or do we enjoy swimming in the ocean of complains and self-pity? I think the choice is easy! Both options are available to us at every moment in time. The question is: “What do I choose right now?”

In the book “Way of The Peaceful Warrior,” Dan Millman writes about taking responsibility for your life, “It is better for you to take responsibility for your life as it is, instead of blaming others, or circumstances, for your predicament. As your eyes open, you’ll see that your state of health, happiness, and every circumstance of your life has been, in large part, arranged by you – consciously or unconsciously.”

Why Is It Difficult to Take Responsibility For Your Life?

Sometimes it’s difficult to take responsibility for everything that happens in your life, including your reactions, for several reasons. It’s not easy to do it without proper guidance of someone, who has already mastered it at least partially. There are situations when a person may not have enough inner resources to quit an old habit of considering oneself an innocent victim of circumstances. In fact, it is a very addictive and self-destructive habit. Here are a few reasons, why it may be hard to just drop it once and for all.

  1. First, we don’t yet have a habit to think differently. No one teaches children in the kindergarten or in school that they always have a choice which emotion they prefer to feel, or which thought to think. As time goes by, a person forms an opinion that all these reactions just come and go as they please. It’s like an uncontrollable river of emotions and thoughts, where everyone is just trying to survive and avoid drowning. If we think that way, life actually becomes a whirlpool of circumstances, reactions, and events, which “just happen” to us because we have voluntarily given up our rights to affect our own inner states.
  2. Negative reactions of fear, irritation, anger, or anxiety are more familiar than positive states. Over time, they build and strengthen neuro-networks that are linked with corresponding chemical reactions in the body. To reprogram these mental, emotional, and physiological tapes, we then need to exert certain effort. However, the longer someone lives in these destructive unconscious states, the more inner resources are getting used up. As a result, there is not enough inner resources left to make a shift. We can observe similar dynamics in any addict. I have seen many people, who have come to this point. There is a solution to any problem, however, if there is even a little willingness to find it. In this state of mind, it is necessary for the person to seek the help of someone who is vibrationally higher now, someone who can lift that person up by seeing his or her positive potential. It can be just a friend, partner, coach, or another helping professional. After the first emergency relief has been provided, the person can use different methods to raise their vibrations and practice self-empowered thinking. Doctor David Hawkins, for example, writes about it in his books.
  1. Finally, the most important reason is that it’s hard to accept that I have created everything, good and bad, I see in my life with my own reactions, thoughts, and beliefs. This is what the quote from “Way of The Peaceful Warrior” says. No, we don’t have a problem with taking credit for everything that we think is going well in our life. It’s the other part that we have a problem with. There is a deep-seated belief that punishment must follow any mistake. This is also a learned pattern, which we can eventually change. For example, A Course in Miracles teaches us how to do that.

The Power of Responsibility

In fact, if these three barriers have been overcome, which is easier to do with the help of an objective observer who genuinely wants to help, new opportunities show up in a person’s life seemingly out of nowhere, and everything begins to work out. Clearly, taking responsibility for your life opens the doors for consciously choosing your reactions and the direction of your life. It’s a process of taking back your power.

With each new choice the sense of fulfillment, energy, and inspiration grows stronger and stronger. We become more aware of our reactions, which gives us power by itself. Gradually, we are clearing all the blocks in our awareness, and the joy begin to overflow, so that it is impossible not to share it with others. It freely flows through us and fills everything that we do.  A Course in Miracles has several quotes on responsibility, including this one:

“I am responsible for what I see.
I choose the feelings I experience, and I decide
upon the goal I would achieve.
And everything that seems to happen to me
I ask for, and receive as I have asked.” (T.21.II.2:3-5) 

Three Pitfalls On the Way to Responsibility

There are three pitfalls on our journey to taking full responsibility for our life. In fact, there are more than three pitfalls on this path, but I will start with the three that are most obvious to me right now. I wasted so much time on each one of these mind tricks.

  1. Intellectualization of My Problems. When we start to see what we are doing, our ego creatively invents various theories to justify our old patterns of thinking. For example, I can think that I have a right to continue blaming my spouse for his behavior because it does affect my well-being. As long as I buy this argument, I’m not in control of how I feel anymore. Like an alcoholic can always find a reason to have a drink, the ego will keep offering new explanations for the familiar blame game. The answer should be always, “No, thank you. I accept my responsibility for how I choose to feel.”
  2. Looking for a Scapegoat. As we come up with different stories, we tend to blame someone or something. Even when I learned to recognize these stories, some of them were so persistent that I kept holding on for them for years. For example, one of my “favorite” stories about my life was that my parents and the entire education system, including kindergarten, school, and university, were responsible for my way of thinking now. So what if it is true? Do I want to get stuck in the energy of powerless complaining? In fact, I was stuck on this story for years. To move forward, I needed to leave the past in the past and free the future from my own grievances and complains. It simultaneously opened up new possibilities that were not on the horizon before, because I was too focused on what went wrong in the past that I couldn’t even see them.
  3. Not Taking Action and Not Expressing Your Talents in The World. I could write a separate post on this one. I see not taking action as a certain mark of the separation between the inner and the outer, the spiritual and the material. If someone doesn’t have any relationship or creative outlet, no real interaction with the world, the question is what prevents the person from acting. What blocks the implementation of inspired ideas in the world? Usually, if there are no inner blocks, then there are no impediments to realizing one’s talents either. One way or the other, they will find their way to expression in the form of a very specific activity. If that didn’t happen yet, that’s okay too. It is usually a long process that takes time, effort,  and dedication. I believe that everyone comes here with certain talents and unique strengths, and only expressing them brings us joy and enriches the world. In “Man’s Search for Meaning”, Viktor E. Frankl said: “Everyone has his own specific vocation or mission in life; everyone must carry out a concrete assignment that demands fulfillment. Therein he cannot be replaced, nor can his life be repeated. Thus, everyone’s task is unique as his specific opportunity to implement it.”

Using Empowering Language

As we gradually change our thinking process from victim mentality to self-empowerment, the old habitual thoughts can still persist. Having this list of substitutions handy can be helpful when you want to replace an old way of speaking with the new one. Our words are very powerful!  We can use language as a tool to reprogram our subconscious mind.

Here is a table of replacement phrases. I put the victim words on the left and their empowering counterparts on the right. Some of these reframes are taken from the book Feel the Fear and …Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers, which  highly recommend.

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There is much more that can be said about creating an empowered life, and I’m going to continue sharing my ideas and experience here. If you have any questions or comments, please share them with me in the comments below.

Thank you for reading my blog!

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How to Clean Up Your Mental Diet

“It is a man’s own mind, not his enemy or foe, that lures him to evil ways.”

~Buddha

Quantity vs. Quality of Information

In the 16th159576-004-39776F0D century, scientists such as Conrad Gesner expressed concerns that the information overload from mass production of books might negatively affect the human mind after the invention of the printing press. Back then, lay people were not accustomed to the availability of scientific and occult knowledge. Such warnings have been made for centuries, and likely will be made for centuries to come as we accumulate even more complex networks of information. However, I see that the issue of the quality of information we consume is even more important now than the issue of quantity. Did we drop the standards for the quality of information we consume too low? Is there a correlation between the quantity and quality of information?

Information Overload

During the last decade, we’ve become strangely accustomed to information overload. People are complaining less about it now than before. Many people actually like to have access to more information now than before. According to the 2016 PEW Research Center survey, most Americans do not feel that information overload is a problem for them. Only 20% say they feel overloaded by information, which is less than the 27% a decade ago. 77% say they like having so much information at their fingertips, and 67% say that having more information at their disposals actually helps to simplify their lives.

Daniel Levitin, McGill University psychology professor and author of The Organized Mind: Thinking Straight in the Age of Information Overload, says in his book: “In 1976, there were 9,000 products in the average grocery store, and now it’s ballooned to 40,000 products. And yet most of us can get almost all our shopping done in just 150 items, so you’re having to ignore tens of thousands of times every time you go shopping.” The speed at which the quantity of generated information has increased in perfectly summarized in this quote: “I’ve read estimates there were 30 exabytes of information 10 years ago and today, there’s 300 exabytes of information.”

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Information We Consume Turns into Our Life Experiences

With a dramatic increase in quantity of information, the question of quality becomes event more important. Does the quality of information drop on average with a sharp increase in its quantity? If yes, it must have an effect on the quality of our lives. Think about it for a moment. Everything we perceive during the day is processed by our brains. What we put into our mind, stays there and cannot be easily removed. Sooner or later, what we put into our mind directly affects our moods, our words, and our actions.

This simple analysis suggests that a mental diet is at least as important as a physical diet. We don’t eat everything that we can. Then, why don’t we watch in the same way what we consume with our minds? Why do we often allow ourselves to read, watch, or listen to information without differentiation? Increasing the quantity of information without simultaneously developing the faculty of discernment must inevitably lead to lower information quality. Continue reading How to Clean Up Your Mental Diet

How to Calculate and Interpret Your Personal Year Number

How to Calculate and Interpret Your Personal Year Number

“Everything turns in circles and spirals with the cosmic heart until infinity. Everything has a vibration that spirals inward or outward — and everything turns together in the same direction at the same time. This vibration keeps going: it becomes born and expands or closes and destructs — only to repeat the cycle again in opposite current. Like a lotus, it opens or closes, dies and is born again. Such is also the story of the sun and moon, of me and you. Nothing truly dies. All energy simply transforms.” 
~ Suzy Kasseem, Rise Up and Salute the Sun: Writings of Suzy Kassem

9-Year Life Cycles

In Numerology, our life follows 9-year cycles. Each year in a 9-year cycle is colored with its own main vibration, purpose, and theme. You can think of this cycle as a wave you are riding. Each of us is riding a different wave, and together they form the ocean of energy. At any given time, we are in a certain point in our 9-year cycle. Therefore, our waves synchronize with the waves of some people in our surrounding, and they can be asynchronous with the waves of others.

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What is the Personal Year Number?

Your Personal Year Number reflects the vibrational potential and main purpose of a year for you. It tells you what’s happening in your life this year and what should be your main focus. Every year vibrates at a certain frequency. If you know how to calculate and interpret your Personal Year Number, you can be in the flow instead of swimming upstream.  You can be better prepared for the future, avoiding obstacles and using your energy efficiently to achieve optimal results.

When you know your Personal Year Number, external situations and events make much more sense to you, because you can put them in the context of specific patterns described by this number. You can consciously take advantage of opportunities that are aligned with the blueprint for your life. You know their greater purpose, because you are connected to your personal rhythm of life. Continue reading How to Calculate and Interpret Your Personal Year Number

How To Support Yourself in A Time of Change

How to Support Yourself in a Time of Change

Just when I think I have learned the way to live, life changes.
~Hugh Prather

What Is Change?

We live in a world of change. Cambridge Dictionary defines change as “something unusual or new that is better or more pleasant than what existed before.” Changes that we encounter in life can be positive or negative, but all of them have an element of uncertainty or novelty, which we need to adapt to. Even though we learn the most when we are out of the comfort zone, it is something we have to remind ourselves of. Ability to adapt to changing circumstances in an essential skill for success in business and personal life.

Various Types of Changes

If you are going through a transitional period in your life, it is very likely that many other people are facing similar challenging situations you are going through. Knowing that can  make us more sensitive and compassionate towards each other. There is a wide variety of stressful life changes. Richard Zwolinski, a licenced psychotherapist and the author of Therapy Revolution: Find Help, Get Better, and Move On without Wasting Time or Money lists 20 stressors that trigger emotional problems:

  1. Death of a family member
  2. Terminal illness (one’s own or a family member)
  3. Physical incapacitation, chronic pain, or chronic illness
  4. Drug or alcohol abuse (self)
  5. Drug or alcohol abuse (family member, partner)
  6. Divorce
  7. Marriage
  8. Loss of job or job change
  9. Moving house
  10. Change of school (primarily for children or teens, but this can effect adults, too)
  11. Primary relationship problems (spouse or parent/child/sibling)
  12. Persistent Relationship Problems, non-primary (difficulties with other family members, conflict and loss of friends, difficulties with coworkers)
  13. Academic problems (poor grades, inability to retain information, problems with teachers, unable to meet deadlines)
  14. Occupational problems (lateness, absences, problems with boss or coworkers)
  15. Victim of abuse
  16. Victim of crime
  17. Criminal actions towards others
  18. Abusive actions towards self or others
  19. Extreme loneliness/lack of community membership or friendships
  20. Severe financial problems

In fact, stress factors have a cumulative effect on our physical, mental, and emotional state. Therefore, it is even more difficult for us to process several life-changing situations in the same year. For example, I know someone who has experienced an unexpected divorce, a move, and a change of job at the same time. To say the least, it wasn’t the easiest year for my friend. Continue reading How to Support Yourself in a Time of Change

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On Receiving Guidance from Spirit: Reflections on Essay 1 “This Is Not a Selfish Gift” from A Course in Miracles (CE)

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This week, I started reading the Complete and Annotated Edition of A Course in Miracles  that was recently published by the Circle of Atonement. This edition is published based on the original notes of Helen Schucman. It includes important additional material that was not included in the official edition of the Course.

The first essay at the back of the book called “This Is Not A Selfish Gift” deeply touched my heart. It contains the notes that Helen recorded immediately before she started receiving the Course. First, Helen’s impressive ability to establish communication with her Inner Voice seemed so remarkable to me. Obviously, it didn’t just start happening to her when she heard, “This is a Course in Miracles. Please, take notes.” It seems that she has been in communication with the Voice that she called Christ for a very long time. She could even distinguish changes in the tone of the answers. Even before she started recording the Course, she was receiving very specific guidance on what to do and how to see various situations in her life.

Before reading this essay, I knew that Helen had visions throughout her life, which is indicative of her psychic abilities. But it was very revealing to me that she communicated with the same Voice before the Course. For example, she writes in her notes, “I was really quite depressed this AM, which is now very unusual, but He says “Be of good cheer – I have overcome the world” [John 16:33]. Helen’s ability to maintain an effortless dialogue with the Voice suggests that she was far from beginner at that point. 

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