Just when I think I have learned the way to live, life changes.
What Is Change?
We live in a world of change. Cambridge Dictionary defines change as “something unusual or new that is better or more pleasant than what existed before.” Changes that we encounter in life can be positive or negative, but all of them have an element of uncertainty or novelty, which we need to adapt to. Even though we learn the most when we are out of the comfort zone, it is something we have to remind ourselves of. Ability to adapt to changing circumstances in an essential skill for success in business and personal life.
Various Types of Changes
If you are going through a transitional period in your life, it is very likely that many other people are facing similar challenging situations you are going through. Knowing that can make us more sensitive and compassionate towards each other. There is a wide variety of stressful life changes. Richard Zwolinski, a licenced psychotherapist and the author of Therapy Revolution: Find Help, Get Better, and Move On without Wasting Time or Money lists 20 stressors that trigger emotional problems:
- Death of a family member
- Terminal illness (one’s own or a family member)
- Physical incapacitation, chronic pain, or chronic illness
- Drug or alcohol abuse (self)
- Drug or alcohol abuse (family member, partner)
- Loss of job or job change
- Moving house
- Change of school (primarily for children or teens, but this can effect adults, too)
- Primary relationship problems (spouse or parent/child/sibling)
- Persistent Relationship Problems, non-primary (difficulties with other family members, conflict and loss of friends, difficulties with coworkers)
- Academic problems (poor grades, inability to retain information, problems with teachers, unable to meet deadlines)
- Occupational problems (lateness, absences, problems with boss or coworkers)
- Victim of abuse
- Victim of crime
- Criminal actions towards others
- Abusive actions towards self or others
- Extreme loneliness/lack of community membership or friendships
- Severe financial problems
In fact, stress factors have a cumulative effect on our physical, mental, and emotional state. Therefore, it is even more difficult for us to process several life-changing situations in the same year. For example, I know someone who has experienced an unexpected divorce, a move, and a change of job at the same time. To say the least, it wasn’t the easiest year for my friend. Continue reading How to Support Yourself in a Time of Change