“Everyone has been made for some particular work, and the desire for that work has been put in every heart.”
Mevlana Jelaluddin Rumi
Our understanding of life purpose changes and evolves over time, as we mature and gain new experience. However, everyone begins to wonder sooner or later how to find his or her life purpose. As always, the answer is usually very simple. We are happy when we are doing exactly what we came here to do, and unhappy when we are trying to do someone else’s job. The degree of unhappiness intensifies the longer the person insists on staying away from his or her life purpose.
Even though deep inside we know what we need to be doing, we often ignore or doubt these hints of intuition. The further we are from the path that leads to the fulfillment of our life purpose, the more it feels like we are living someone else’s life. In a way, that’s exactly what we are trying to do! Following an iterative process of trial and error, we are finally drawn to discover our life purpose.
In “Man’s Search for Meaning”, Viktor E. Frankl said: “Everyone has his own specific vocation or mission in life; everyone must carry out a concrete assignment that demands fulfillment. Therein he cannot be replaced, nor can his life be repeated. Thus, everyone’s task is unique as his specific opportunity to implement it.” Even though Rumi and Frankl have never met, they both agreed on a fundamental premise that each person has a mission in life, which no one else can fulfill. This mission keeps calling us, until we gladly accept the call. By the way, life purpose doesn’t have to be a vocation or career, it could be simply a way of living in the world that is unique to you.
The fact that we don’t currently live in society where everyone is happy and content shows that very few people actually succeed at finding and realizing their life purpose. According to Edgar Cayce, famous American psychic and healer, discovering and understanding your life purpose is a life-long process. As we learn more about ourselves through different experiences in life, we begin to see our values, strengths, and opportunities to use our talents in a constructive way.
Here is a simple 3-step process you can start the process of discovering your life purpose. You can work through these steps on your own or hire a coach who specializes in helping people realize their unique mission in life. You can also do it with a trusted friend. Support and accountability are always helpful!
Naturally, it will take some time to create a compelling mission statement that will speaks to you. Using the information in Steps 1 and 2, answer the following questions. Who are you becoming when you are including these values and strengths into your life? How are you doing it? Which skills, knowledge, training is helpful? Why is it important for you to fulfill your potential? Who benefits from it?
When you write down a personal statement that you are comfortable with, you will feel a deep sense of inspiration and joy. This should be a sign that you are in alignment with your soul’s purpose. Place your personal mission statement somewhere, where you will be able to see it daily. Begin every day by reading it and feeling the joy and inner expansion that comes from living it. Gradually, it will be integrated in your daily life and help you make important decisions in your life.
I want to close with one of my favorite poems by Oriah The Mountain Dreamer, called “Invitation”. To me, this moving poem provides an open door, through which you can enter a comforting Presence of your heart. In that Presence, all the answers are available and all resources are abundant. We simply need to reach out for them.
“It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.
It doesn’t interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive.
It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon. I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life’s betrayals or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain.
I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it, or fade it, or fix it.
I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own; if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, be realistic, remember the limitations of being human.
It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself. If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul. If you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.
I want to know if you can see Beauty even when it is not pretty every day. And if you can source your own life from its presence.
I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand at the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, ‘Yes.’
It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have. I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone and do what needs to be done to feed the children.
It doesn’t interest me who you know or how you came to be here. I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me and not shrink back.
It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away.
I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.”
There are effective ancient tools that people used for ages to gain insights about their lives. Numerology and astrology are two of them. If you are interested in learning more about your life purpose and numerology, I will be offering a free webinar “How to Live Your Life Purpose” on Wednesday, November 30 at 6:00-7-00 p.m. EST. In this webinar, we are going to discuss how to calculate and interpret your Life Purpose and Life Foundation Numbers and how to begin understanding your life purpose using numerology.
Tanya Ince, Ph.D, is a spirtual life coach, writer, numerologist, and trainer of Spiritual Technology methods of Zivorad Slavinski. On her blog, Tanya writes about practical spirituality and personal development and publishes daily numerology forecasts. You can connect with Tanya on Facebook or follow her on Twitter @TanyaCoaching.