[:ru]Зачем нужно брать отвестветственность за свою жизнь?[:en]How To Take Responsibility For Your Life[:]


[:ru]Во время одного из моих тренингов по ПЭАТ, разговор зашел на тему ответственности и о том, что же мы делаем, когда помогаем клиенту избавиться от накопленного эмоционального заряда вокруг проблемы. Вопрос, который мы обсуждали был о том, что некоторые люди не готовы взять ответственность за свою жизнь, а хотят изменить кого-то другого. Тогда они приходят к коучу или процессору ПЭАТ и говорят, например: “Мой муж лежит дома на диване и не работает. Как мне на него повлиять?” Или, например: “Моя жена много ругается, а я люблю спокойную обстановку в доме. Как мне ее изменить?”

Простой факт заключается в том, что никого кроме себя мы изменить не в состоянии. Другой факт состоит в том, что когда внутренние изменения глубоко интегрируются в жизни человека через новые эмоции, мысли и действия, его окружение тоже меняется, как результат. На тренинге мы это всегда подробно обсуждаем, чтобы даже не было попыток прорабатывать эмоции или состояния друогого человека. На индивидуальных сессиях я сразу отвечаю на такие вопросы на первой встрече с человеком, объясняя, что поработать мы можем только с тем, что он хочет и может увидеть в себе, а не в другом. Можно работать со своими реакциями на действия мужа или жены, к примеру.[:en]Responsibility has an unduly bad reputation in our society. It is often mistakenly associated with blame and pointing fingers. In fact, it is a very empowering notion. Sigmund Freud said, “Most people do not really want freedom, because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened of responsibility.” Taking responsibility for your life is the first step for any change.

While we are thinking that someone or something else is responsible for circumstances that occurred in our lives, any progress is out of question. If I believe that something external controls how I feel, I’m giving away my power to that all-powerful something. It is literally disempowering. As long as I believe so, I will stay in a position of a victim, where anything can happen to me against my will. I can get angry because someone didn’t show up on time. I can get irritated because I had to wait in traffic for an hour. I can get upset because I work with people, who don’t understand and don’t appreciate me. There are many versions of this miserable scenario.

Even though we are used to thinking that way and rehearsed it very well, this is a position that is very far from reality and from the realization of our own power to choose any reaction to any situation. While we keep complaining and crying over spilled milk, life is quietly passing by and we keep wasting precious opportunities for growth. Opportunities for change are always there, but they assume that we are at least open for them instead of being stuck in self-pity. This is not to blame anyone, because it is a learned habit. But we can make another choice. Do we want something new or do we enjoy swimming in the ocean of complains and self-pity? I think the choice is easy! Both options are available to us at every moment in time. The question is: “What do I choose right now?”

In the book “Way of The Peaceful Warrior,” Dan Millman writes about taking responsibility for your life, “It is better for you to take responsibility for your life as it is, instead of blaming others, or circumstances, for your predicament. As your eyes open, you’ll see that your state of health, happiness, and every circumstance of your life has been, in large part, arranged by you – consciously or unconsciously.[:]

[:en]On Receiving Guidance from Spirit: Reflections on Essay 1 “This Is Not a Selfish Gift” from A Course in Miracles (CE)[:]


[:en]This week, I started reading the Complete and Annotated Edition of A Course in Miracles that was recently published by the Circle of Atonement. This edition is published based on the original notes of Helen Schucman. It includes important additional material that was not included in the official edition of the Course.

The first essay at the back of the book called “This Is Not A Selfish Gift” deeply touched my heart. It contains the notes that Helen recorded immediately before she started receiving the Course. First, Helen’s fine-tuned ability to establish communication with her Inner Voice seemed so remarkable to me. Obviously, it didn’t just start happening to her when she heard, “This is a Course in Miracles. Please, take notes.” It seems that she has been in communication with the Voice that she called Christ for a very long time. She could even distinguish changes in the tone of the answers. Even before she started recording the Course, she was receiving very specific guidance on what to do and how to see various situations in her life.

I knew that Helen had visions throughout her life, which is indicative of her psychic abilities, but it was very revealing to me that she communicated with the same Voice before the Course. For example, she writes in her notes, “I was really quite depressed this AM, which is now very unusual, but He says “Be of good cheer – I have overcome the world” [John 16:33]. Helen’s ability to maintain an effortless dialogue with the Voice suggests that she was far from the beginner at that point. In this lifetime or in the one before, it looks like she has developed her skills of being a clear channel.

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