[:en]We are sustained and fulfilled by the eternal flow of Love. There is nothing else. Why then are we tricked so easily into believing that we are sustained by the material resources, career, and food?[:]
[:en]Fall is the time of change and appreciation of the abundance of life. It is a symbol for transformation and receiving gifts. How can we enter this new season with composure and excitement? How can we follow our inner compass during the time of change?
Going through a major life transition, like having a baby, getting married, or getting a new job, can be overwhelming. In addition to the natural stress of adjusting to a new role, we often impose on ourselves a pile of unrealistic expectations and rules about how we need to handle it.[:]
[:en]Many of us are currently starting new chapters in different areas of our lives. Whether it is moving into a new home, starting a new job, having a baby, starting a new business, or beginning a new relationship, embarking on a new adventure requires energy, dedication, stability of focus, and clarity of vision. Very often, it is the idea of starting something new that seems frightening to us. As we take the first step, the unknown territory gradually becomes more familiar and we begin to enjoy the process.[:]
[:en]Sun and Moon meet Chiron in Pisces in the skies. We are releasing the victimhood stories of pain and suffering and replacing them with a new story. Starting from now, we can see our lives in a completely new light. We go back at our lives and collectively let go of the past and move from pain and divisiveness to happiness and wholeness. It is time to heal all the wounds.
In the meanwhile, we can be shown situations that no longer serve us because we’ve outgrown them. We are shown what needs healing. This lunar month, we can use the cosmic energies to meditate and tune into releasing all our pain. Karmic wounds that involve the closest family members may surface. Family stories may com to the surface to be healed. Approach these situations with wisdom and grace. If they surface and request your attention in your memories or in real life, meet them with kindness, objectivity, and detachment. Remember that this is an opportunity for acceptance, healing, and letting go.
At the same time, Pisces makes us vulnerable and emotional. It doesn’t mean that it will be easy to stay graceful and detached. This month, we can consciously work with the element of water to release the past. As we are able to release old grievances and rewrite our old stories, we become wiser and more connected to our spiritual essence.[:]
[:ru]Во время одного из моих тренингов по ПЭАТ, разговор зашел на тему ответственности и о том, что же мы делаем, когда помогаем клиенту избавиться от накопленного эмоционального заряда вокруг проблемы. Вопрос, который мы обсуждали был о том, что некоторые люди не готовы взять ответственность за свою жизнь, а хотят изменить кого-то другого. Тогда они приходят к коучу или процессору ПЭАТ и говорят, например: “Мой муж лежит дома на диване и не работает. Как мне на него повлиять?” Или, например: “Моя жена много ругается, а я люблю спокойную обстановку в доме. Как мне ее изменить?”
Простой факт заключается в том, что никого кроме себя мы изменить не в состоянии. Другой факт состоит в том, что когда внутренние изменения глубоко интегрируются в жизни человека через новые эмоции, мысли и действия, его окружение тоже меняется, как результат. На тренинге мы это всегда подробно обсуждаем, чтобы даже не было попыток прорабатывать эмоции или состояния друогого человека. На индивидуальных сессиях я сразу отвечаю на такие вопросы на первой встрече с человеком, объясняя, что поработать мы можем только с тем, что он хочет и может увидеть в себе, а не в другом. Можно работать со своими реакциями на действия мужа или жены, к примеру.[:en]Responsibility has an unduly bad reputation in our society. It is often mistakenly associated with blame and pointing fingers. In fact, it is a very empowering notion. Sigmund Freud said, “Most people do not really want freedom, because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened of responsibility.” Taking responsibility for your life is the first step for any change.
While we are thinking that someone or something else is responsible for circumstances that occurred in our lives, any progress is out of question. If I believe that something external controls how I feel, I’m giving away my power to that all-powerful something. It is literally disempowering. As long as I believe so, I will stay in a position of a victim, where anything can happen to me against my will. I can get angry because someone didn’t show up on time. I can get irritated because I had to wait in traffic for an hour. I can get upset because I work with people, who don’t understand and don’t appreciate me. There are many versions of this miserable scenario.
Even though we are used to thinking that way and rehearsed it very well, this is a position that is very far from reality and from the realization of our own power to choose any reaction to any situation. While we keep complaining and crying over spilled milk, life is quietly passing by and we keep wasting precious opportunities for growth. Opportunities for change are always there, but they assume that we are at least open for them instead of being stuck in self-pity. This is not to blame anyone, because it is a learned habit. But we can make another choice. Do we want something new or do we enjoy swimming in the ocean of complains and self-pity? I think the choice is easy! Both options are available to us at every moment in time. The question is: “What do I choose right now?”
In the book “Way of The Peaceful Warrior,” Dan Millman writes about taking responsibility for your life, “It is better for you to take responsibility for your life as it is, instead of blaming others, or circumstances, for your predicament. As your eyes open, you’ll see that your state of health, happiness, and every circumstance of your life has been, in large part, arranged by you – consciously or unconsciously.[:]
[:ru]Для того чтобы восстановить внутреннюю целостность и начать строить гармоничные отношения, исходя из внутренней целостности и наполненности собой, а не из ощущения пустоты, можно использовать следующие два подхода.[:]
[:ru]Большинство людей строят отношения из ощущения внутренней пустоты. Тогда другой человек становится средством для заполнения этой пустоты и средством для облегчения всяких негативных состояний, которые являются прямым результатом отсуствия внутренней целостности. Это – простая попытка использовать другого человека в своих целях, для того чтобы справиться с последствиями собственной слепоты к себе. Невозможно забыть о себе и быть счастливым.
Безусловно, это забывание происходит часто помимо нашей воли, просто в результате жизни в социуме. В течение своей жизни мы набираемся разнообразных идей о том, какими мы должны быть, и какими должны быть отношения. Мы подменяем свою истинную суть этим набором общепринятых идей. Это не проходит бесследно. Забывая о своей Душе, мы также теряем связь с Источником. Нас престает что-либо радовать, жизнь становиться серой и будничной. На самом деле, многие люди даже не знают, что есть другая жизнь.[:]
[:en]This week, I started reading the Complete and Annotated Edition of A Course in Miracles that was recently published by the Circle of Atonement. This edition is published based on the original notes of Helen Schucman. It includes important additional material that was not included in the official edition of the Course.
The first essay at the back of the book called “This Is Not A Selfish Gift” deeply touched my heart. It contains the notes that Helen recorded immediately before she started receiving the Course. First, Helen’s fine-tuned ability to establish communication with her Inner Voice seemed so remarkable to me. Obviously, it didn’t just start happening to her when she heard, “This is a Course in Miracles. Please, take notes.” It seems that she has been in communication with the Voice that she called Christ for a very long time. She could even distinguish changes in the tone of the answers. Even before she started recording the Course, she was receiving very specific guidance on what to do and how to see various situations in her life.
I knew that Helen had visions throughout her life, which is indicative of her psychic abilities, but it was very revealing to me that she communicated with the same Voice before the Course. For example, she writes in her notes, “I was really quite depressed this AM, which is now very unusual, but He says “Be of good cheer – I have overcome the world” [John 16:33]. Helen’s ability to maintain an effortless dialogue with the Voice suggests that she was far from the beginner at that point. In this lifetime or in the one before, it looks like she has developed her skills of being a clear channel.
Share Your Gifts with Others[:]
[:en]“To give and to receive are one in truth.” ~Lesson 108, A Course in Miracles
Have you ever felt exhausted or drained after helping someone? Do you feel chronically overworked and tired? Do you feel resentment after being asked for something? At one point or another, everyone had these feelings. The ability to create a balance of giving and receiving is the key to maintain healthy long-term relationships.
4-Step Process of Restoring the Balance of Giving and Receiving
The process below will help you to determine if you are giving too much, and if yes, to learn how to restore the balance of energy. There are 4 questions we can ask ourselves to begin re-balancing our relationships and money issues.
How Do I Know If I’m Over-Giving?
My definition of giving “too much” is when a person feels depleted or hurts himself in the process of helping someone. Resentment, anger, frustration, or despair are signals that tell me that I’m not paying attention to my own needs and over-giving.
In this article, the author Elizabeth Gilbert clearly explains the difference between over-giving and generosity by saying, “…over-giving is not quite the same thing as generosity. Generosity is neither entangling nor aggressive, because the generous person doesn’t expect anything in return. The over-giver doesn’t expect anything in return either—except to be petted and feted and praised and loved unconditionally for the rest of time…”[:]
[:en]Courage in Action
The theme for this New Moon in Aries is courage in action. We are embodying what it truly means to be who we are and act from the place of knowing what you want and what you don’t want.
There are three elements of courage in action:
First, it assumes that you have a clear idea about where you are going and what is consistent with your goals.
Second, you also know what you are no longer willing to accept precisely because it is not aligned with where you want to be.
Third, you are ready, willing, and able to take committed action towards your goals.[:]