“Start by doing what’s necessary; then do what’s possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible.” ~Saint Francis of Assisi
Many of us are currently starting new chapters in different areas of our lives. Whether it is moving into a new home, starting a new job, having a baby, starting a new business, or beginning a new relationship, embarking on a new adventure requires energy, dedication, stability of focus, and clarity of vision. Very often, it is the idea of starting something new that seems frightening to us. As we take the first step, the unknown territory gradually becomes more familiar and we begin to enjoy the process.
How can we bring ourselves to make this first step? I think the above quote by Saint Francis sums it up. The desire for something new is usually born out of necessity for change. Ironically, the unhappier we are now the more energized and motivated we are to change something. At a certain point, current situation becomes so intolerable that the necessity of an adjustment becomes apparent. This is a turning point, when we start to take the necessary action steps to bring about the new vision.
The discomfort that is felt just before this turning point contains very useful information about what we want to have instead. This information can be used to create a vision for the future. The clearer this vision is, the more energy and motivation we can garner for making this transition. By experiencing this temporary pressure, uneasiness, impatience, or lack, we can crystallize our desire and inform our vision for the future.
Therefore, [clickToTweet tweet=”The best way to see any discomfort is like a precursor to something new that is about to be born.” quote=”the best way to see any discomfort is like an inspiration for change and a precursor to something new that is about to be born.” theme=”style3″] It shows us where the change is necessary.
A transition process is a process of trusting that you are doing your best every day by taking small steps. Taking these steps has a cumulative effect that eventually shifts the quality of an experience. This is clearly observed in learning to drive a car, play an instrument, or ride a bike.
I like to put it into a 3-step practical process of asking myself these three questions:
In this article on How to Support Yourself During A Time of Change, I provided a questionnaire that helps to evaluate you level of stress that comes from change and five ways to support yourself throughout this process.
This poem from John O’Donohue’s book To Bless the Space Between Us is a perfect inspiration for a new beginning. It can be helpful as we prepare for what’s coming next. It emphasizes trust, grace, and listening to the rhythm of what is unfolding in our lives.
In out-of-the-way places of the heart,
Where your thoughts never think to wander,
This beginning has been quietly forming,
Waiting until you were ready to emerge.
For a long time it has watched your desire,
Feeling the emptiness grow inside you,
Noticing how you willed yourself on,
Still unable to leave what you had outgrown.
It watched you play with the seduction of safety
And the grey promises that sameness whispered,
Heard the waves of turmoil rise and relent,
Wondered would you always live like this.
Then the delight, when your courage kindled,
And out you stepped onto new ground,
Your eyes young again with energy and dream,
A path of plenitude opening before you.
Though your destination is not clear
You can trust the promise of this opening;
Unfurl yourself into the grace of beginning
That is one with your life’s desire.
Awaken your spirit to adventure;
Hold nothing back, learn to find ease in risk;
Soon you will be home in a new rhythm,
For your soul senses the world that awaits you.[:]